All long term relationships hit that point where the woman starts to wonder, “Where is this going?” If you know your man is “the one” and you want him to ask the big question but not sure if he’s even thinking about it, there are a few things you can do to move things along in the right direction.
Drop Hints If you want your man to propose, be sure you have had all of the important conversations about your future. It’s likely that he thinks things are just fine the way they are unless you have given him the inclination to think more long-term. If you don’t already, talk about living together, where you see yourself in five years, whether you want children and when. By having these conversations, you are dropping hints that you want to take it to the next level.
Even talk about marriage – sometimes that is a taboo topic, but usually it’s good to be open about what you expect and see in your future. Next, there are the hints about what kind of ring you’d want. Next time you are in mall or out shopping, just casually lead him into a jewelry store. You don’t have to have the official “ring shopping” outing to properly drop a hint about your desire to get married. You might also comment about your friends’ rings that you like – they may ask the guys where they got it, or seek out the friend for advice on your ring. Though, if dropping hints and discussing the topic doesn’t work, there is always timelines and ultimatums.
Timelines and Ultimatums Some women have been successful in getting their man to ask the big question by applying timelines and/or ultimatums. For instance, you may want to tell your man, “I want to be engaged within the year,” or “I’d like to get married by next summer.” Giving your man a timeline may actually work to your advantage, since he can now plan for the engagement and he knows what you want.
However, some guys need more than a timeline. You may need to consider an ultimatum. For example, you may say “Since we are living together, I feel like if we are not engaged within the year, I can’t do this anymore.” Or, you can basically say, ask the big question or that’s it. While it appears to be harsh, it happens to be a successful tactic to getting your man to ask the big question. The bottom line is that they are scared to lose you and will likely take the plunge.
