At first when you join an online dating site you all you can really do is browse the other profiles and find profiles you are interested in. However, you don’t want to contact every individual whose profile you initially like. Instead, you will want to make a list of the ones you like and when you finish browsing all the profiles you may want to compare the profiles and contact the one you like most. If you contact everyone at one time and they all respond then you have a bit of a problem. It is too hard to communicate with five or six individuals at once and follow all of the conversations and really get to know one another. So, start with one or two and go from there. If they don’t work out, then move on to the next.
Getting Started
The best way to get started is to send a wink or a private message. Most online dating sites have a feature where you can “wink”, “smile”, or something like that to show the individual you are interested. This puts the ball in their court and they can “wink” back or reply in an instant message or email. It is best to follow this method of contacting individuals because you don’t want to appear overbearing or overanxious.
If you do decide to send an email introducing yourself be sure to make it short and sweet. Nobody wants to read a long email about you and your interests before they actually become interested in you. That means your email should be personalized, like “Hey BlueEyezintheCity”, and just include the basics like your first name and that you liked their profile. Then, ask them to check your profile and if interested get back to you. Be light, funny, and understanding that people will want to read your profile before responding.
These are just a few ways you can make first contact and have it be as successful as possible!
Yannis