If you’re nervous about the first date, relax- it’s only natural, and shows your enthusiasm for getting to spend time with him or her. Truth being told, your date is probably just as nervous as you are.
Picking the venue for your first date is one of the most important decisions you can make. Take a little time to think through your options and remember the main goal of your date- to get to know him or her better. Daytime activities are great low pressure alternatives to evening plans and all the insinuations that come along with it. Places like art galleries, museums, and zoos can give you plenty to look at and talk about. Planning a fun filled activity like going to an amusement park, racing go-karts, or taking a swing at a mini golf course will ensure neither of you are bored. If the weather permits, consider packing up a picnic, grabbing a blanket, and heading to a nearby park for a lazy afternoon of conversation- and don’t forget to pack a chilled bottle of wine! (But remember, if you do decide to consume alcohol during the date, try to keep the drinks at a minimum- it’s never a good impression to get wasted on a first date.)
Don’t get overwhelmed about filling the conversation with witty banter, impressive knowledge of world events or funny stories. While everyone likes a joke once in awhile, use the time to get to know the other person better. Since you don’t know much about your date, the topics to explore are endless! However, stay away from discussing heavy topics like politics, religion or old relationships- there will be time for that later as you get to know each other and feel more comfortable with one another.
Pay attention to your date- don’t allow yourself to zone out and think about the Cubs game last night or the presentation you have on Monday. Try to keep the conversation balanced, taking equal turns to talk and listen- no one likes a one man show. Remember your manners (thanks Mom!)- compliment your date on his or her appearance, open car and restaurant doors, and most importantly, thank the other person for the date. Not only will this emphasize your interest in your date, but it will also help him or her feel comfortable.
Wrapping up a first date can potentially be a little awkward, so having a clear ending time can help eliminate any of that lingering inability to say goodbye. If you enjoyed your time together, make sure your date knows your feelings, and even suggest an upcoming day for a second date. If you unfortunately didn’t feel a connection, politely say goodbye, and follow up with an email or phone call to explain that you do not see a future for you two.
As long as you’re armed with a positive attitude and self confidence, you’re set for a great first date!
