The “guy friend who is maybe more than just a friend” situation is one of the ultimate dilemmas in a single girl’s dating life. A lot of really great relationships start from being friends, but crossing that line can also end a valued friendship. Especially in this day and age, a lot of women and men go out in groups of friends and not necessarily one-on-one. This causes an interesting dynamic of singles and couples and sometimes can lead a girl to wonder, “Is that guy friend boyfriend material?” If you are trying to turn that “guy friend” into your boyfriend, there are a few things you can try to make it happen.
Weigh the Pros and Cons Before turning the guy friend into a boyfriend, you must decide whether it is worth it to you to lose the friendship if the romance goes south or doesn’t work out. Will it cause an uncomfortable rift in your friendships? Will it be awkward when you are out together? Do you think you will have chemistry? If you decide that you’d like to test the waters, the next step is to try to get him one-on-one.
The Non-Date Date Since you are friends, it shouldn’t be too hard to find a time to hang out with him. Ask him for coffee or if he wants to meet for lunch during the work week. Invite him to a happy hour you’ve planned. Have a party and make sure he comes and while he’s there, spend a little more time with him. You have to begin to show him that you could be girlfriend material and not just a good friend. Find ways to sit next to him while out and just try to be near him. These efforts will start giving him hints that you like him more than just a friend. Further, communicate with him a bit more by maybe sending an email here and there or an invite to a group social event.
Go for It Often, women get lucky enough that their guy friend gets the hint and a mutual admiration builds organically into more than friends. Though, if you are dealing with more of a shy guy or aren’t quite sure yet, you may want to take the brave step and ask him out on a date. Or plan a quiet meeting to let him know how you feel. In most cases, people who started as friends make great partners and you will be glad you were open and willing to give it a try.
