There are a number of ways to successfully approach a woman and your strategy depends on the environment you are in and your personality. The tried and true “Can I buy you a drink?” approach has a remarkable success considering its simplicity, but it really only works in a bar environment. There are other ways to approach a woman that can be used in a variety of situations. Most importantly, confidence plays a big part in the success of your approach.
Relax First, be relaxed when approaching a woman. Your nervousness will show through and possibly make the woman uncomfortable. You want to appear confident, calm and assured of yourself. Confidence is a trait that appeals to women. Be confident enough to take rejection and move on, as well.
Take Mental Notes Once you’ve decided to approach a woman, the big question becomes “What do I talk to her about?” Before approaching the woman, take some mental notes about what she is doing. Maybe you are on the bus or waiting in a coffee shop. Try to see what they are reading, overhear their coffee order and pay attention to the small talk they are making. With these mental notes, you will have topics to discuss or ask about. You can start a simple conversation with a comment as easy as “What are you listening to?” “Do you like that new coffee?” “How’s that book you are reading? Have you read any of the author’s other books?”
Determine the Style of Your Approach There are lots of different ways you can approach a woman, but your delivery may make all the difference and it depends on your personality. You can go the sensitive, charming route. When you approach the girl, be sweet, using your low key charm to interest the woman. Using this approach at the end of the conversation, you can end with a sweet kiss on the cheek and a simple “I’d like to see you again.”
Some men may opt for the more direct route when approaching a woman and straight out ask them to go out or for their phone number right off the bat. This works for some men and can be successful with the right woman. But this will depend on the personality of the woman – that is why it’s important to take mental notes on the woman you’d like to approach. If she seems more reserved, go with the delicate, sweet charm. If she is outgoing and vivacious, you might have luck with the more direct route. And lastly, there is always the fun, yet causal approach. In this approach, the man takes it less seriously and sees what happens while just having fun and enjoying the woman’s company.
