It is very common for good relationships to start from friendships. And often, you may have a “girl friend” that you spend a lot of time with and then realize you have feelings for that person. If you are trying to turn that “girl friend” into your girlfriend, there are a couple of things to consider and ways to make it happen.
Weigh the Pros and Cons Going from friend to relationship can be a very delicate situation. You may first want to make sure that you aren’t sacrificing a great friendship for the wrong reasons. Before you decide to take it further, ensure that you understand you may lose a great friendship but on the flipside gain a wonderful relationship. Just make sure that you are confident in your decision to take it to that next level.
Be a Good Mate If you are lucky, you might already have a feeling that your girl friend may have feelings for you too, and the transition into relationship could be seamless. But, in many cases, the girl friend sees you as a good guy buddy and not as relationship material. When you hang out with your girl friend, show her that you could be a good mate. Be considerate, listen intently and be a good conversationalist. Maybe surprise her by doing something sweet that you may have not otherwise do – go out of your way to help her, do something nice out of the blue or let her make the plans, even if the end choice may have not been what you would’ve chosen. These actions can make her realize you could be more than just a good guy buddy.
Take the First Steps Hopefully by this point, you have a feeling that your girl friend likes you more than a friend, too. Though, in this case, it is not likely that the girl will make the first move because of the “friend status.” If you really want to take your friendship to the next level and have no regrets about “what could’ve been,” make the first step. While you are used to hanging out casually, ask her out on a real date and see how she responds. Take it slow and let it happen organically. On the date, treat her not just as a best girl buddy, but as someone you are romantically interested in – but don’t wander from your real personality. But acting funny or unlike yourself, it will confuse the girl and make it awkward. Just be yourself, enjoy her company and let her know how you feel. With hope, she will feel the same way and you can take your great friendship and make it into a wonderful relationship.
