No one likes breaking up but revenge is not always the answer. While you may feel like the only thing that is going to make you feel any better is to plaster that video you shot of him when he was locked out of the house in his underwear all over YouTube, in the long run that quick little burst of pleasure is not long lasting and you will be back to square one quickly.

The best revenge that you can possibly get is to get yourself over the breakup and move on. When your ex sees you looking fine and enjoying yourself without him or her, that will truly be sweet revenge. So, follow these tips and get your revenge started.

1.    Give yourself time to grieve. You need to feel the feelings and experience them to be able to let them go. The longer you put off this process, the longer it will take so dig the chocolate ice cream out of the freezer and cry your heart out.

2.    Get a makeover. Nothing will make you feel hotter after a break up than making a change. Do something drastic that he would have hated.

3.    Keep a journal. Write out how you are feeling and get it out of your system.

4.    Start cleaning. One great way to help yourself work through a breakup is to do some spring cleaning, even if it isn’t spring.

5.    Get yourself to the gym and work out all those disappointments and frustrations. The endorphins released while you are exercising will immediately put you into a better frame of mind and you will get healthier in the process.

6.    Rely on your friends for support. Rally the troops and have a good old fashioned slumber party just for the girls.

7.    Keep your schedule the same. Continue on with life as if nothing is different. Go to work, go to school, do the grocery shopping. Keep things as normal as possible.

8.    Make a list of all your ex’s bad traits. Instead of sitting around and focusing on what you love about him, think about what you didn’t love about him. Then, move on to number nine.

9.    Be grateful for what you have. Remember to be thankful for the family and friends that are still in your life helping you through your breakup.

10.    Get rid of anything that even remotely reminds you of your ex. Not only will you have a lot more storage space if you do but you won’t drive yourself to distraction with your memories. Clear out the CD with your song on it and toss that teddy bear he won for you at the fair.

11.    Be selfish for awhile. Do what you need to do for yourself. Don’t worry about your friends or your family and especially don’t worry about how your ex is doing. It’s all about you.

12.    Remember to have faith in yourself. Remind yourself constantly that you are a good, worthy person and you deserve to have a relationship with someone that realizes that.

13.    After the quick fix of ice cream to get over the initial drama, move on to healthier foods that will keep you feeling your best.

14.    Get a massage. Understand that you are going through a difficult time and little things like a massage can brighten your day just a little bit.

15.    Remind yourself that you like you and being alone with you is ok. If you like spending time with yourself, other people will too.

16.    Do something fun. Do the things that you stopped doing as much of when you started dating your ex because he didn’t enjoy them as much as you did.

17.    Figure out what you need to learn from the relationship so you don’t repeat the same mistakes.

18.    Stop talking about your ex. While it is important to grieve and be able to freely express your emotions, talking about your ex 24/7 is not going to help you move on.

19.  Hit the playing field again. Go out there and explore your options. See what you may have been missing.

20.  Recognize when it may be time to take a chance on love again.

Moving on after a breakup may seem like the last thing on your mind but keep in mind you don’t have to marry anyone. Enjoy your life, follow your passions and this breakup will quickly become just another distant memory that makes you think that maybe everything does really happen for a reason.

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