The “guy friend who is maybe more than just a friend” situation is one of the ultimate dilemmas in a single girl’s dating life. A lot of really great relationships start from being friends, but crossing that line can also end a valued friendship. Especially in this day and age, a lot of women and men go out in groups of friends and not necessarily one-on-one. This causes an interesting dynamic of singles and couples and sometimes can lead a girl to wonder, “Is that guy friend boyfriend material?” If you are trying to turn that “guy friend” into your boyfriend, there are a few things you can try to make it happen.
Weigh the Pros and Cons Before turning the guy friend into a boyfriend, you must decide whether it is worth it to you to lose the friendship if the romance goes south or doesn’t work out. Will it cause an uncomfortable rift in your friendships? Will it be awkward when you are out together? Do you think you will have chemistry? If you decide that you’d like to test the waters, the next step is to try to get him one-on-one.
The Non-Date Date Since you are friends, it shouldn’t be too hard to find a time to hang out with him. Ask him for coffee or if he wants to meet for lunch during the work week. Invite him to a happy hour you’ve planned. Have a party and make sure he comes and while he’s there, spend a little more time with him. You have to begin to show him that you could be girlfriend material and not just a good friend. Find ways to sit next to him while out and just try to be near him. These efforts will start giving him hints that you like him more than just a friend. Further, communicate with him a bit more by maybe sending an email here and there or an invite to a group social event.
Go for It Often, women get lucky enough that their guy friend gets the hint and a mutual admiration builds organically into more than friends. Though, if you are dealing with more of a shy guy or aren’t quite sure yet, you may want to take the brave step and ask him out on a date. Or plan a quiet meeting to let him know how you feel. In most cases, people who started as friends make great partners and you will be glad you were open and willing to give it a try.
A big unanswered question among women is how to attract hot men. You enter a bar, club, restaurant or even coffee shop and you see girls with really cute, hot guys and you wonder “how did they make that happen?” These occurrences make you think that perhaps there is a little strategy to attracting hot men and those women must have some tips up their sleeves.
Be Confident and Cool Believe it or not, the old adage that guys are intimidated by confident girls is a hoax. It’s the confident girls that aren’t afraid to go for that hot guy that actually get the guys. Not much is going to happen if you sit in a corner and chat with your girlfriends. You must make yourself known in the situation without being vain or arrogant. It’s the cool confidence and sparkling personality that attracts the hot men. Most hot men are confident as well, and they aren’t looking for someone who can’t hold their ground.
Make Smart Wardrobe Choices Another misconception about attracting hot guys is that the skimpiest outfit will get you the most attention. It is true that it might get you the most attention, but perhaps not the kind you wanted. Be smart in your wardrobe choices. Hot guys are looking for that effortless, sexy style that is not overly inappropriate. A hot guy is not going to be seen with a girl that is embarrassing herself with her outfit. If you think you are showing too much, you probably are. The best outfit choices are the ones you feel hot in but also make you feel comfortable and would inhibit you from having a good time.
Be Yourself There is nothing worse than giving off a first impression that is no reflection of who you really are as a person. Being yourself and staying true to who you are is attractive. Acting overly fake or in a manner that is outside of your personality will only damage your chances of meeting someone you really get along with.
Act Brave Now that you’ve assembled the perfect outfit and are feeling confident, it’s time to be brave. You can’t always rely on that hot guy to approach you. If you really want to meet him, make it happen. Move your group of girls closer to him. Meet him at the bar when you see him heading towards it. Observe for awhile, and then make your move – you will be glad you did.
Sometimes it’s hard to know when a guy is interested. As we know, men are not as open as women when it comes to their feelings, so it’s important to take a few subtle clues.
He Shows Interest A sure sign that a guy is interested is he asks questions about you when you talk. He listens closely and keeps eye contact. If you are out with a group of your friends and a guy you are interested in talks with you most of the time and not with his guy buddies, this is a sign he is interested. In your conversation, if he smiles a lot and is inquisitive when you talk, he’s into you. Also, if you find that he is around you a lot – for instance, he shows up at your birthday party and stays the whole time, or tries to make plans just to hang out among you and your friends, he is interested.
He Reaches Out to You A sure sign that a guy is interested is if he communicates with you regularly when there may be no reason. You find that he is emailing you to ask random questions or dropping you a text to say hi and see what you are up to. Women often wonder why guys don’t call them, when they think that he is interested. While guys are not usually phone talkers anyway, he may not be calling because he is not interested or maybe just wants to be friends. But on the flipside, if he does call you and reach out to you, it’s a clear signal he likes you.
He’s Happy Around You When you are with the guy, does he seem really happy? Does he smile a lot and seem comfortable? If your answers are yes to these questions, he is interested in you. In addition to being happy around you, he may also say nice things and be actively interested in what’s going on in your life. These are all sure signs that he is into you and you can be clear that he is interested.
He Goes Out of His Way If you find that this guy you have an eye on goes out of his way to hang out with you or do nice things, you are probably right to think he likes you. Maybe he goes out of his way to pick you up, or comes to see you but he knows he should be working. If he is making a conscious effort that is outside of his normal routine, you can be sure he likes you.
Sometimes guys ask girls out when they meet them in the grocery store, at a concert, or even in a bar. It’s hard to know if this is the guy you really want to be dating although you can probably tell pretty fast if you are attracted to him. If you do think he is hot and would like to get to know him better, find a way to get the answers to the following questions before saying “yes” to a date. You will learn from the answers to some basic information to help you make a decision!
Is he single?
The first question is important because you don’t want to go out with a guy who is dating someone else. That is not the type of relationship you want to get involved in and it only show the type of guy he is. So, this one is a biggie. Sure, he could lie, but when you ask you will be able to tell by his body language if he is telling the truth.
What’s he into?
You may want to ask him what his hobbies are or what he likes to do. This will give you some insight into the type of guy he is. Don’t feel shy asking him about his hobbies and the things he likes to do because these are important answers for you. If he is into some strange things like devil worshipping or tattooing his whole body, you may want to stay clear. That is, unless you are into those things as well.
What does he do?
A guy’s job says a lot about who he is. Ask about his work or studies. You will learn what he wants to be in life and who he wants to become. It’s completely normal for you to ask what he does so he won’t feel like you are giving him the third degree.
Remember, don’t pepper him with questions, but let them fall into normal conversation. If he asks you out after you have found all of this information out then you will be able to make a good decision whether you are truly into this guy or not. Of course, if you are really attracted to him go ahead and say “yes” because you never know, sometimes opposites really do attract.
You have probably felt at times that you have a sign on your forehead that says, “I love losers, fat guys, psychopaths, etc.” If so, you probably are sending the wrong signals with your body. Your body can tell any guy that you want him to talk to you or you want him to leave you alone. Learn the art of body language and you will control who talks to you!
Eye Contact
The best way to show you are interested in someone is to make eye contact. Glance in his direction until you catch his eye. Then, follow this up with longer glances so he knows you are flirting and not inadvertently looking in his direction. When he looks at you look away quickly, while smiling. He will feel caught up in your little game and attracted to you. After a few moments brave a stronger gaze and smile at him. This shows you are truly interested.
If a man is playing this game with you and you are not interested then you must ignore the attempt to make eye contact. Don’t look at him or give him any reason to think you are interested.
Use Your Hands
You may be shy about saying certain things, but you can use your hands to make a point. Touch his hand when you are reaching for your glass “by accident” or pick a piece of lint from his shirt. You may also leave your hands open showing interest. Try rhythmically caressing the collar of your shirt or the rim of your glass. This is a big turn on and shows your interest. Make sure you don’t appear fidgety.
Watch Your Signals
If you like a guy then you want to send the right signals. This means to avoid smoking cigarette after cigarette, even if he is a smoker, too. Don’t have too many drinks or chew with your mouth open. Try to limit your trips to the bathroom and don’t send any signals that you aren’t willing to follow up on. Keep these suggestions in mind and you will fare better on all of your dates in the future!
