Men always wonder who they should ask out when they are in a crowded restaurant or bar and there are many attractive women. Men who are frequently turned down are not asking out the right women and there could be plenty of women interested in dating them. The following suggestions will help any guy find the right girl to ask out and increase his chances of having her say “yes”!

Eye Contact

Look around the room on a regular basis and see what women are checking you out. When you make eye contact with someone keep checking back to see if she looks back at you. Sometimes, eye contact is inadvertent. Other times, it is not. When a woman is making eye contact with you it is because she is flirting with you. Keep looking at her to catch her gaze, without staring at her. When it is obvious she is interested in you then you may want to walk over and say “hi” or be more subtle and order her a drink through the waiter.

Smiles

Women who smile at you are generally saying, “I like you.” Women are not going to seek men out and give them their biggest smile if they aren’t interested. Generally, women who aren’t interested will do their best to look away and fidget to try to get out of your presence. They send the “don’t talk to me” vibe, so take this to heart. Women who smile are showing you they want to keep talking and that they like talking to you. Give these women more of a chance to see if they could be a potential date for you.

Touching

When a girl touches you several time in an evening it is probably her way of flirting with you. One touch does not count because it really could be by accident. However, multiple touches should signal you to the girl’s interest. Notice every little touch so you know who likes you and who doesn’t!

Keep this information in mind the next time you are out on the prowl. It might help you choose between the girl who is interested in you and the girl who wants nothing to do with you!

Have you ever had a 15 or 20-minute conversation with a girl and thought all was going well only to have her say something along the lines of, “It was nice talking to you, but I need to find my friends…”? If this has happened to you then you need to know what happened. Generally, the girl was interested in you enough to have a conversation, but she never committed to the conversation so she left you abruptly. The following suggestions will help you get a woman who is chatting with you to commit to something longer and more involved.

Sit

Most of the time you will meet a girl and start chatting while you are standing up. A great way to get her to commit to the conversation is to have her sit down with you. Find some chairs at the bar or a couch along the wall and sit down to chat.

Dance

You may consider asking a girl to dance after a few minutes of chatting. Doing this will help her commit to more interaction with you and the simple act of dancing will help her feel more committed to you.

Leave

If you have a drink or a jacket, leave it with her and quickly run to the bathroom or to buy more drinks. This makes her miss you enough to want to stick around for a while longer after you return!

Trade Rounds

When a woman buys you a drink, even if you are trading rounds, she will feel a commitment to you. Ask her to trade rounds by buying the first. Then, you buy enough time that she has to make it through two rounds with you and by then she will probably realize you are cool enough that she wants to stick around for more rounds.

Go to Another Bar

If you really want a girl to commit the evening to you then take her to another bar or location. She will actively make the decision to visit another locale with you and realize she is committing herself for the evening, and possibly longer!

You don’t need to have any more 20-minute conversations only to lose the girl again. Use these tips to help you get the girl to commit to you for much longer than a few minutes!

You see men with older women all the time. This bothers younger women, especially when the guy is hot; because they wonder what older women have that could be so appealing. Men are also mesmerized because they wonder what they are missing. Even Ashton Kutcher knows the secret and he married Demi Moore, so there must be something special. Men interested in dating older women should follow some rules, however.

Talk

You may be young and can get down with the best of them, and she probably can, too. However, if she is a mature woman she will appreciate good conversation at some point. This means you need to be prepared to talk. You may want to have a few topics picked out that you are passionate about so you can carry on a good conversation.  Ask her about her work, what she enjoys doing, and her favorite band. You may not have a lot in common, but you should be able to hold a conversation.

Cool, Calm, and Collect

People will stare, whisper, and in general make you feel uncomfortable about your choice in women. That means you had better have a spine if you are going to date an older woman. The good news is that if you are comfortable with all the attention dating an older woman garners, you will impress her to no end.

Forget the Age Difference

Women don’t like to be reminded that they are growing older, and especially not by their younger date. You both know she is older, it turns you both on, so it should be left at that. A passing reference here or there may be okay, but referring to the age difference on a regular basis is not a good idea.

Don’t Act Her Age

Just because she is older than you does not mean you should try to act her age. Instead, act your own age for once! She is with you because she enjoys the carefree spontaneity of youth without commitment. Be yourself and she will truly love it!

Men walk a tight rope when it comes to when they should take the relationship to the next level. They must consider what they want to do in conjunction with what the woman feels comfortable with. As long as both individuals are consenting adults, the relationship may be taken to the next level when it feels appropriate. The following outline may help you get a better idea of what most women consider acceptable so you won’t cross the line. Of course, if a woman wants you to go faster she will let you know!

First Date

When it comes to the first date many women feel comfortable puckering up for a good night kiss if they were attracted to you and had a good time. Generally, this will not turn into an all night makeout session because most women want to keep you wanting more rather than giving it all up on the first date! If you feel she was flirting with you and had a good time go ahead and try to give her a good night kiss. You could choose to be a gentleman and simply kiss her hand, too, and then you would leave her wanting more. If the date did not go well, don’t try anything!

Second Date

If you ask her on a second date and she accepts you know she likes you a little bit. During this date the two of you will probably flirt more and may even hold hands. If things seem to be going well you may give her a good night kiss when you drop her off. If you already kissed her on the first date, then on the second you may engage in a mini make out session, but keep your hands to yourself even if you have to cut the kissing short to do so.

Third Date

Generally, by the third date a full make out session is warranted! You have both been holding back and if you are attracted to each other then you can both let loose at this point and enjoy as many kisses as you want. The woman will guide you as to what other physical activity she considers acceptable at this point and you will make your way with her guidance and your persistence.

We all know first impressions are important. However, do you know how to go about making a good first impression? Many times we think we do and then when it comes down to it we completely flake and do everything we should not. Fortunately, men who are interested in making a good first impression can do so by following these suggestions.

Don’t Talk Too Much

You may be a great person and you may have accomplished a lot in your life. However, you do not have to tell your life story in the first hour you meet someone. Throw in some juicy tidbits, but save some for later, too, so you will always have something new and exciting to talk about. In addition, when you are not going on and on about yourself you will have time to ask her questions about her life. Women really like men who take an interest and ask questions.

Ask Questions

Before you go on your date you may want to brainstorm some good fallback questions in case the conversation does not flow well. For example, you could be having a conversation and all of a sudden there is a silence. Instead of having to figure out something to say on the spot that could sound stupid or embarrassing you can just fall back on the questions you thought up. Ask her to tell you something about her education, where she would like to travel one day, where she sees herself in 10 years, and the like. Make it an open-ended question so she has to come up with an answer other than yes or no.

Listen

When she is talking, listen. You do not want to ask her the same question twice or not follow something she tells you simply because you are not listening. So, focus on what she is saying to see if she is interesting, intelligent, and the kind of woman you are looking for.