There are a number of ways to successfully approach a woman and your strategy depends on the environment you are in and your personality. The tried and true “Can I buy you a drink?” approach has a remarkable success considering its simplicity, but it really only works in a bar environment. There are other ways to approach a woman that can be used in a variety of situations. Most importantly, confidence plays a big part in the success of your approach.

Relax
First, be relaxed when approaching a woman. Your nervousness will show through and possibly make the woman uncomfortable. You want to appear confident, calm and assured of yourself. Confidence is a trait that appeals to women. Be confident enough to take rejection and move on, as well.

Take Mental Notes
Once you’ve decided to approach a woman, the big question becomes “What do I talk to her about?” Before approaching the woman, take some mental notes about what she is doing. Maybe you are on the bus or waiting in a coffee shop. Try to see what they are reading, overhear their coffee order and pay attention to the small talk they are making. With these mental notes, you will have topics to discuss or ask about. You can start a simple conversation with a comment as easy as “What are you listening to?” “Do you like that new coffee?” “How’s that book you are reading? Have you read any of the author’s other books?”

Determine the Style of Your Approach
There are lots of different ways you can approach a woman, but your delivery may make all the difference and it depends on your personality. You can go the sensitive, charming route. When you approach the girl, be sweet, using your low key charm to interest the woman. Using this approach at the end of the conversation, you can end with a sweet kiss on the cheek and a simple “I’d like to see you again.”

Some men may opt for the more direct route when approaching a woman and straight out ask them to go out or for their phone number right off the bat. This works for some men and can be successful with the right woman. But this will depend on the personality of the woman – that is why it’s important to take mental notes on the woman you’d like to approach. If she seems more reserved, go with the delicate, sweet charm. If she is outgoing and vivacious, you might have luck with the more direct route. And lastly, there is always the fun, yet causal approach. In this approach, the man takes it less seriously and sees what happens while just having fun and enjoying the woman’s company.

After talking with a woman for awhile you realize that you like her and want her to understand that you are interested. The conversation is going great, there is laughter, smiles and flirting and she seems interested too. But like everyone knows, this is when there is that awkward point where you are not quite sure what to do next to show her you are interested. In this situation, there are a few things you can do to show a woman you are interested.

Be Forward
Before you part with the woman, you must ask for her number. And better yet, instead of asking her out at a later time, ask her right then. As your conversation is winding down, go ahead and make plans to see her again. It is as simple as saying “I want to see you again,” or “Can we meet again?” or “Let’s meet up next week.” Then when you call her, you’ve already established that you want to meet up and this effort will show her you are interested.

Also, to show a woman you are interested don’t wait three days to call her. Reach out to her sooner – you are only giving her the wrong impression if you wait to call her. This action will only send her mixed messages after what she thought was a great conversation and good connection. You like the woman, why not call right away? Be forward and confident – you don’t want to pass up the opportunity to show someone you like that you are interested and want to see them again.

Listen and Engage
A good way to show a woman you are interested is to pay attention to her and be a good conversationalist and listener. Women value a deep conversation. And if they feel like you are engaged and listening, this is a sign to them that you are interested. For instance, say you are at a bar with a group of your guy buddies, but you have been talking to a woman you like. You are torn between rejoining your buddies or talking to her, but if you want to show her you are interested, stay with the woman. In addition, be an active listener, smile, be funny and ask questions. Keep eye contact, compliment her and perhaps causally try to get closer to her. These are all sure signals to show a woman you are interested in her.

Just remember, if you want to show a woman you are interested, be open and let her know your feelings. It can be as simple as asking to see the person again, or saying “I like your company.” Don’t be shy but instead be confident and not afraid to show a woman you are interested.

One of the most common complaints that women have about men is that they don’t listen. Women don’t understand why men don’t listen, but they think their mates’ minds are elsewhere when they are talking. To make a relationship work, go on a successful date or even talk to a woman in a bar, you must really listen – it will be appreciated by the woman and you will start to understand the person’s feelings and point of view.

Act and Be Interested
You must be an active listener. To do this, act interested and be interested in what the woman is saying. Really listen to them – you might be surprised what she has to say. Ask questions. Be attentive. Fully understand what the woman is saying and be inquisitive. Your willingness to listen and be interested in conversation will be admired by women and considered a good trait. Don’t interrupt your mate in conversation – if you are interrupting that means you were not listening and instead so focused on what you want to say or what you want to hear.

Eye Contact
Another key part in listening to women and being an active listener is to maintain eye contact. If you maintain eye contact, you mind naturally focuses on the conversation giving you the proper focus to listen intently. Try not to let your eye contact wander while listening. This is especially hard when there are distractions or when you are in a crowded place. Don’t let your eye wander to the people walking behind your mate or the television or music. Keep your focus and eye contact and you will enable yourself to listen well to women.

Focus
In addition to eye contact, focus is very important. Don’t be distracted while you are listening. Try to clear your head of distractions and the focus on the person talking to you. This will also enhance your eye contact. While there may be a big game on in the background, you may need to take a quick break and focus on listening to something important from your mate. It does take effort to be a good listener, but in the long run it will be of benefit to you.

Consciously listening and focusing on the person’s point of view will make you more understanding of their perspective and give you a better idea of how they feel. This whole concept begins with active listening. If you stay focused, keep eye contact and stay inquisitive, you will be successful in listening to women.

Men universally want to be that funny, attractive guy that women fall for. But what men don’t understand is that not all women are looking for the stereotypical “it” guy. Each woman has different taste and a different idea of what they are looking for. What makes you that funny, attractive guy is not a new shirt or hair cut but it is how you carry yourself and the presentation of your personality.  Every man can be funny and attractive to women in their own way.

Be Yourself
When trying to attract women, the most important thing to remember is to be confident in who you are. A man that has confidence is very appealing to a woman. Don’t try to be someone you aren’t – women see right through this and it is not attractive. Everyone is funny and attractive to someone and it is all a matter of being yourself, acting confident and being open to meeting all types of different people.

Take Things Lightly, But Not Too Much
When trying to attract women, it’s helpful to maintain a good balance between funny and obnoxious. Try to be careful about what you say in a joking or sarcastic way – a new person may not always follow your sense and humor and your attempt to be funny may offend or turn a person off.

Be sure to get a feeling for the person before telling that new joke or making fun of a situation. It’s very important to have a light-hearted spirit when trying to attract women, but don’t take it too far. Keep an eye on your alcohol consumption – being or acting too drunk is not funny and can be a turn off. Instead, keep your cool, have fun and maintain an optimistic attitude.  Essentially, if you are relaxed and having a good time, you will be surprised how easy it is to attract women.

Use your Natural Charm and Sense of Humor
Every guy has the ability to turn on their own personal charm in the right situations. Using the right amount of natural charm combined with your own sense of humor is a great combination for attracting women. Women love a guy who can say just the right thing in a funny, charming way.  If you go further and combine your delicate use of charm with perhaps a compliment for the new woman, this is a winning combination! The bottom line is be yourself and don’t go out of your way to be the funniest person in the bar – it may not be what that special woman for you is looking for in a guy.

When you are looking for a date there are several things to keep in mind. There are many things you should look for in a potential date, but these are the top three to keep in mind!

Attraction

You shouldn’t focus as much on a woman’s looks as you should on how much you are attracted to her. Sometimes a woman who does not have a beautiful face may have a rocking body that really attracts you to her. Give a girl a chance to see if there is any attraction there. If so, then you will know to look for some of the other traits!

Intelligence

No guy wants to date a dummy and most women aren’t. However, before you ask a girl out you will want to feel her out to some degree to see if she is on your intelligence level. If you are really smart and she isn’t then she might get on your nerves after about 15 minutes. A quick conversation will help you learn if she is on your level or not.

Personality

You may like a girl who is outgoing and chatty or you may prefer a girl who is laidback and quiet. You can determine a girl’s personality quite easily from a distance by watching how she interacts with others. Pay attention and you will be able to determine if a girl measures up to your standards or not.
You may have other things you are looking for in a date, too, but those are probably things you won’t find out until you have been on several dates. Things like how many kids she wants to have and where she wants to settle down are all questions left for later on in a relationship. The top three things will guide you to the best girl to ask out on a date for you. Then, you can figure everything else out!