So you are single and heading out for a night on the town in hopes of meeting someone new. Bars can be good places to meet people, but keep in mind these few tips.
Show Interest Usually, when guys hit the bars, they are with a group of buddies and likewise, the women are usually in small groups. Sometimes, this can be a tough scenario for picking up women. You don’t want to crash a group of women and seem rude especially if you can’t tell if the woman you have your eye on is interested. Remember, the likelihood of a woman approaching you in a bar is slim to none. They are waiting for the guy to make the first move. Yes, you might occasionally come across a girl who approaches you, but chances are slim. When she looks over, smile, act confident and appear like you are having a good time. Acting drunk or being overly drunk will not help you pick up women in bars. Next try to move your group closer to the group of women and continue having a good time with your guy friends. In a casual way, keep making confident glances at the woman you are trying to meet in the bar.
Strike up a Conversation Now that you have moved closer to the women you want to talk to, try to strike up a conversation. If there are sports on in the background, ask them who their team is, where they went to college – try to find common ground. If it’s a quieter place, maybe try to inadvertently stand or sit near them, and start with a simple “hi.” That will break the ice and hopefully get the conversation moving. Remember, proximity is important. Don’t stand on the other side of the bar expecting things to happen. Move closer to them – your chances of talking to them are better. Having a camera on you is a great ice breaker. Ask the woman to take a group picture of you and your buddies. Women think this is cute, and it’s a great ice breaker. Again, the key is getting closer to the women you like in order to start a conversation and get things moving.
Don’t be Afraid to Ask for their Number So you are talking to this great woman and you’d like to see her again. The phone number exchange in bars can be awkward. Women are likely not going to ask for your number. So you must ask if you feel like it’s going well. Women may be more likely to give out an email address. It’s less invasive and in today’s day and age, it’s common. So ask for a number or email address.
Don’t let the chance of meeting a great woman pass you by – be confident and not afraid to face rejection – not every woman in the bar is the right one for you, but it’s worth a try!
It is no secret that one of the hardest parts about dating is starting the conversation. You see someone you admire while out and you really want to talk to them, but how do you start the conversation? Sometimes the conversation flows easily from a simple hello or a quick introduction, but other times, it’s more difficult. There are a couple of things you can do to get the conversation rolling with someone new.
Approach First The first step in starting a conversation is to approach and get closer. You are not going to be able to start a conversation from across the bar. Proximity is the key to starting a conversation. Move yourself closer to the woman you’d like to start a conversation with, stand near them and say hi. If you see that person heading to the bar, go over and get close to them. Offer to buy their drink, make a recommendation or compliment them on what the woman is wearing or their jewelry. Don’t be shy! Be confident and engaging when starting a conversation. Laugh, smile and be interesting. Try not to talk too much about yourself and by all means, do not interrupt the woman while she is talking and be an active listener.
Find Common Ground A good way to start the conversation is to find some common ground with the person. Find out where the woman is from and perhaps you are from nearby or know someone in the area. This is a good starting point in the conversation. Moving from there, try to find more common ground and interests – ask the person where they went to college, their favorite places to travel or visit and what they do for fun. Finding common interests will not only be a good starting point for conversation but will also keep the conversation going. The key is finding something interesting to talk about with the woman. Often finding something you have in common is the best way to start a conversation.
Be Confident A key element to starting a conversation with a woman is to have the courage to approach them and be willing to put yourself out there. Confidence is one the most important traits that women are looking for in a man. If you show the confidence to just walk right up to the person and engage them in discussion, this will make the woman think you are strong and confident in yourself. Don’t be too sure of yourself to the borderline of cocky – there is a fine line between arrogance and confidence and women can tell. Most importantly, be yourself and relax and the conversation will flow.
Men often wonder how they can attract those hot women they always see out and about with other guys. They wonder, “How did that guy get with that girl?” “What’s his secret to attracting women?” The keys to attracting hot women are to achieve a balance of self confidence, charm, good manners and a kept appearance.
Self Confidence Hot women are attracted to men that are confident in themselves, strong and secure. You want to carry yourselves with a sense of confidence but without arrogance. Smile, have fun and let your personality be a standout in the bar. Confidence is everything when trying to appeal to a woman – if you go right up to a woman you have an eye on, they will be impressed by your secure nature. Even if you get rejected, you have the confidence to just shake it off and move on. Women do not want guys who need their hand held or ego stroked – be confident, it will pay off.
Charm Women love a charming man. Use humor and the right choice of words when talking to a hot woman. Smile a lot and be sweet in your mannerisms and words. Your own personal charm is a valuable tool in attracting hot women. Try not to take it too far – you don’t want to appear fake, but your charm is an important part of making your personality stand out.
Good Manners and Kept Appearance It is really important to be mindful of how you act and look when trying to attract hot women. If you come into the bar with holes in your shirt and wild, unkempt hair your chances of attracting a hot woman are slim. Don’t dress outside of your personality – you don’t want to look like you are trying too hard – but you want to appear together. Hot women want a guy that puts effort into their appearance.
Listen Being a good and interesting conversationalist will help you attract the women you want. All women like a man who can hold a conversation in a smart, charming and informed way. When talking to a hot woman, listen, make eye contact and be interested. Compliment her, but in a cool way. Don’t make the woman think you are weird by making big overtures, but compliment in an appropriate manner.
So, remember, if you maintain a good attitude, assured self confidence a groomed appearance, you will be able to attract hot women.
It is very common for good relationships to start from friendships. And often, you may have a “girl friend” that you spend a lot of time with and then realize you have feelings for that person. If you are trying to turn that “girl friend” into your girlfriend, there are a couple of things to consider and ways to make it happen.
Weigh the Pros and Cons Going from friend to relationship can be a very delicate situation. You may first want to make sure that you aren’t sacrificing a great friendship for the wrong reasons. Before you decide to take it further, ensure that you understand you may lose a great friendship but on the flipside gain a wonderful relationship. Just make sure that you are confident in your decision to take it to that next level.
Be a Good Mate If you are lucky, you might already have a feeling that your girl friend may have feelings for you too, and the transition into relationship could be seamless. But, in many cases, the girl friend sees you as a good guy buddy and not as relationship material. When you hang out with your girl friend, show her that you could be a good mate. Be considerate, listen intently and be a good conversationalist. Maybe surprise her by doing something sweet that you may have not otherwise do – go out of your way to help her, do something nice out of the blue or let her make the plans, even if the end choice may have not been what you would’ve chosen. These actions can make her realize you could be more than just a good guy buddy.
Take the First Steps Hopefully by this point, you have a feeling that your girl friend likes you more than a friend, too. Though, in this case, it is not likely that the girl will make the first move because of the “friend status.” If you really want to take your friendship to the next level and have no regrets about “what could’ve been,” make the first step. While you are used to hanging out casually, ask her out on a real date and see how she responds. Take it slow and let it happen organically. On the date, treat her not just as a best girl buddy, but as someone you are romantically interested in – but don’t wander from your real personality. But acting funny or unlike yourself, it will confuse the girl and make it awkward. Just be yourself, enjoy her company and let her know how you feel. With hope, she will feel the same way and you can take your great friendship and make it into a wonderful relationship.
Dealing with your girl’s ex-boyfriends can either be seamless or complicated. Of course, you want your girl’s ex-boyfriend to be a non-issue in your relationship. To make sure this is the case, there are a couple of tips to keep in mind when the situation arises in your relationship.
Don’t be Jealous or Insecure It is the tendency of men to be a little jealous when it comes to dealing with the ex-boyfriends. Women do not like this trait in their men. It makes them seem insecure and macho. When the ex-boyfriend factor comes up, remember you are the one with the woman and she is no longer with the ex. You are the one she has chosen and the ex is a thing of the past. Acting jealous, possessive or insecure will only cause problems and make your girlfriend mad at you. Be confident and act like the ex factor does not bother you—better yet don’t let it phase you – there is a reason that he is the “ex” and you are with the woman. Remember that fact and dealing with your girl’s ex-boyfriend will be a lot less complicated.
Be the Bigger Man When dealing with your girl’s ex-boyfriend, be the bigger man. It is not healthy or constructive to compare yourself to the ex or harness any type of jealousy or anger towards the person. If you see him out, and he approaches you and your girlfriend, be the bigger man. Act confident, kind and polite. You want your girlfriend to believe you don’t have a problem with the ex, and you want the ex-boyfriend to think you are a good guy. While you may not care what he thinks, your girlfriend does. It is always better when the ex-boyfriend factor is a non-issue and amicable situation.
While it’s always better to be the bigger person and act confident and cool in ex-boyfriend situations, if you do have a problem with the dynamic, it’s best to talk openly about it so it doesn’t cause any problems. If he is calling your girlfriend or approaching her when out, don’t get angry but act diplomatically and ask your girlfriend to tell him to stop calling and reaching out to her. The ex-boyfriend needs to understand that she is with you now. Just remember that anger and confrontation are not the way to deal with the ex-boyfriend factor. It won’t make your girlfriend happy and it’s better to be confident and handle the issue like adults.
