Sometimes guys ask girls out when they meet them in the grocery store, at a concert, or even in a bar. It’s hard to know if this is the guy you really want to be dating although you can probably tell pretty fast if you are attracted to him. If you do think he is hot and would like to get to know him better, find a way to get the answers to the following questions before saying “yes” to a date. You will learn from the answers to some basic information to help you make a decision!
Is he single?
The first question is important because you don’t want to go out with a guy who is dating someone else. That is not the type of relationship you want to get involved in and it only show the type of guy he is. So, this one is a biggie. Sure, he could lie, but when you ask you will be able to tell by his body language if he is telling the truth.
What’s he into?
You may want to ask him what his hobbies are or what he likes to do. This will give you some insight into the type of guy he is. Don’t feel shy asking him about his hobbies and the things he likes to do because these are important answers for you. If he is into some strange things like devil worshipping or tattooing his whole body, you may want to stay clear. That is, unless you are into those things as well.
What does he do?
A guy’s job says a lot about who he is. Ask about his work or studies. You will learn what he wants to be in life and who he wants to become. It’s completely normal for you to ask what he does so he won’t feel like you are giving him the third degree.
Remember, don’t pepper him with questions, but let them fall into normal conversation. If he asks you out after you have found all of this information out then you will be able to make a good decision whether you are truly into this guy or not. Of course, if you are really attracted to him go ahead and say “yes” because you never know, sometimes opposites really do attract.
You have probably felt at times that you have a sign on your forehead that says, “I love losers, fat guys, psychopaths, etc.” If so, you probably are sending the wrong signals with your body. Your body can tell any guy that you want him to talk to you or you want him to leave you alone. Learn the art of body language and you will control who talks to you!
Eye Contact
The best way to show you are interested in someone is to make eye contact. Glance in his direction until you catch his eye. Then, follow this up with longer glances so he knows you are flirting and not inadvertently looking in his direction. When he looks at you look away quickly, while smiling. He will feel caught up in your little game and attracted to you. After a few moments brave a stronger gaze and smile at him. This shows you are truly interested.
If a man is playing this game with you and you are not interested then you must ignore the attempt to make eye contact. Don’t look at him or give him any reason to think you are interested.
Use Your Hands
You may be shy about saying certain things, but you can use your hands to make a point. Touch his hand when you are reaching for your glass “by accident” or pick a piece of lint from his shirt. You may also leave your hands open showing interest. Try rhythmically caressing the collar of your shirt or the rim of your glass. This is a big turn on and shows your interest. Make sure you don’t appear fidgety.
Watch Your Signals
If you like a guy then you want to send the right signals. This means to avoid smoking cigarette after cigarette, even if he is a smoker, too. Don’t have too many drinks or chew with your mouth open. Try to limit your trips to the bathroom and don’t send any signals that you aren’t willing to follow up on. Keep these suggestions in mind and you will fare better on all of your dates in the future!
Dating younger men can be a lot of fun, but it can also turn into something serious. Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher, Madonna and Guy Ritchie, Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins, and Mariah Carrey and Nick Cannon are all examples of older women with younger men who made their relationships work long term. This goes to show you can either make the relationship work or just have an incredible fling, whatever works out!
Don’t Look for an Ego Boost
If you are an older woman looking for a younger man because you need an ego boost then you probably won’t find anyone to help you out. However, if you are one hot mama looking to have some fun then young men will flock to you. It’s all in your attitude!
Flirt
Many young men yearn for older, hot women, yet they have no idea how to approach one or take things to the next level. So, feel free to flirt and show them you are interested. You may want to flirt a little more than usual just to send the message that you are indeed flirting.
Avoid the Obvious
There is no reason to get into a discussion on age. Just let him wonder if you really are older than he is and if he asks you can choose whether to be honest or give him a different age. Talking about you being an older woman will take some of the mystery away, so just let him wonder!
Look Good
Women who date younger men always look half their age. That’s part of the reason why younger men like older women because they are mature yet still hot! They are the total package. Make sure you eat well, work out, and stay properly groomed. You want to look good enough for a roll in the hay and have enough stamina, too!
Are you wondering what men are really looking for in a woman? It seems so clear, but then when you are in a relationship and doing everything you think you should do to get him to commit and he still doesn’t you start to question yourself. The following points will help you get a man to commit.
Love Him
Women are sometimes so concerned with getting ahead in the world that they forget how to love a man. Men want to feel loved and appreciated and this is important to do no matter who is the breadwinner. The relationship should not be about who has what job. It should be about two people in love who are able to share that love. Women who love their man are more likely to have him commit.
Every woman can look her best and should if she wants a man to commit to her. As women, we like good-looking guys who are well dressed and well groomed. We take pride in being with this type of man. The same goes for men. They want to be with a woman that looks good. Notice, this doesn’t say “thin, gorgeous, catwalk model.” Men accept women in many shapes and sizes, but no matter your body frame make sure you dress it well, keep your hair well groomed, wear makeup, and be your best.
Be Trustworthy
Every time you break his trust in you, it becomes harder to commit. Therefore, the best path is never to lose his trust. Don’t flirt with other guys, don’t be unfaithful, and always be honest with him. Men want to commit to a woman they trust, so be trustworthy.
Show Your Motherly Traits
Most men want to settle down and start a family. If you are looking for a commitment from a man who wants a family then show him your motherly traits. Let him see you as the mother of his future children, although don’t mother him. This will help you gain the commitment you desire.
Ever had a bad date? Sure, we all have. Some of them are just boring or depressing or with someone that we just don’t click with. Others rank right up there in the ‘date from hell’ category. Either way, it’s a good idea to learn from your mistakes so you can avoid making them again in the future. A lot of people have nightmare stories that they can tell from their days of dating. Some of them are scary, some are just sad, and they’re frequently hilarious, but that doesn’t mean you want them to happen to you!
There’s no way to guarantee that you’ll never have another bad date, but there are a few ways that you can try to spot Mr. (or Ms.) wrong before you get too involved. Here are the top fifteen things that you can look for. Some are just for guys, some are just for ladies, and some are for everyone.
1. Pay attention to how the date is paid for and by whom. For example, if your date pays for your movie with change because “he doesn’t want to break his hundreds,” he probably isn’t someone you’re going to be interested in seeing again. Ditto if he/she ‘accidentally forgets’ to bring any money along on your date. http://love.ivillage.com/snd/snddodonts/0,,toptenlist_9dlr0dwv,00.html
2. Ladies, if you can count the jobs he’s had in the last few years and the number is higher than the number of pairs of shoes you own, that’s a huge red flag. http://love.ivillage.com/snd/snddodonts/0,,toptenlist_9dlr0dwv,00.html
3. If you spend time making excuses for why he/she really is mr./ms. right despite the obvious (and we mean obvious to everyone) problems, he/she probably isn’t. http://love.ivillage.com/snd/snddodonts/0,,toptenlist_9dlr0dwv,00.html
4. Avoid the ‘my wife/husband just doesn’t understand me’ line. The same is true for girlfriend/boyfriend. They might say they’ve broken up or that they’re separated or whatever, but they really aren’t. Unless they’ve severed all types of communication that’s not related to something vital like children in common, they still belong to someone else. That someone else probably won’t want you dating them! http://www.girlposse.com/dating/past_bad_dates/past_bad_dates.html
5. Steer clear of people who start talking about how much they hate their mother, how fat they used to be, or the fact that broccoli gives them excessive flatulence, especially if any of these topics come up in the first few minutes of conversation. http://www.southflorida.com/citylink/sfe-cl-040605cover,0,4220702.photogallery?index=1
6. If you take them to the movies and you’re paying and they eat everything in the theatre, don’t take them out again. Enough said. http://www.southflorida.com/citylink/sfe-cl-040605cover,0,4220702.photogallery?index=1
7. Cell phones, cell phones, cell phones! People who talk on them all the time are annoying, and if they can’t even get off the phone to have actual human interaction, move on. http://www.southflorida.com/citylink/sfe-cl-040605cover,0,4220702.photogallery?index=1
8. If all he/she has to talk about is himself/herself and you can’t get a word in edgewise, that could be a problem. It could be an even bigger problem if the discussion is about psychotic exes and how all people that were dated in the past were crazy. If a person says everyone they used to date was the problem you might start to think: ‘maybe it’s them.’ http://www.southflorida.com/citylink/sfe-cl-040605cover,0,4220702.photogallery?index=1
9. If you’re out with your date and his/her ex shows up and starts stalking you, it’s a good possibility their relationship isn’t as over as you might have thought. Moving on would be a good choice. Especially if the ex has a tattoo of your date’s name somewhere on his or her body. Bonus points if it’s somewhere inappropriate. More bonus points if he/she shows you where. http://www.southflorida.com/citylink/sfe-cl-040605cover,0,4220702.photogallery?index=1
10. If your date shows up with his/her mom/dad/uncle/grandma/dog, etc, that’s another giant red flag. Stay away from people who are incapable of having a social interaction without bringing someone along for backup. http://www.southflorida.com/citylink/sfe-cl-040605cover,0,4220702.photogallery?index=1
11. Your date is insane. Truly. If they start on about nudist colonies, burning themselves because it’s fun, or anything like that, you might want to back away. Slowly. Unless, of course, you’re into those things, too. http://www.southflorida.com/citylink/sfe-cl-040605cover,0,4220702.photogallery?index=1
12. Say you’re on a date and your car breaks down, or it’s really late and the clubs are closing and you can’t find a ride home. You turn to your date to ask what to do, and he/she calls his/her girlfriend/boyfriend to come pick the two of you up and take you home. Huh? http://www.southflorida.com/citylink/sfe-cl-040605cover,0,4220702.photogallery?index=1
13. Nothing wrong with spirituality, but if the guy/girl gets too ‘deep’ right away, you could be dealing with a religious nut. Or someone who’s just plain loony. http://www.southflorida.com/citylink/sfe-cl-040605cover,0,4220702.photogallery?index=1
14. Your date falls asleep during dinner. Not a little snooze that’s over in five seconds followed by an apology and an explanation of why he/she is so tired. An actual, full-on, face splatting into the plate and they don’t even wake up kind of asleep. Pass. http://www.southflorida.com/citylink/sfe-cl-040605cover,0,4220702.photogallery?index=1
15. Last (but certainly not least!), don’t forget the workout nut. This person can speak of nothing else, because nothing else is worthy of discussion. He/she will show up for your date (no matter where you’re meeting) in workout gear, and probably on a bicycle. Nope. Who’s next? http://www.southflorida.com/citylink/sfe-cl-040605cover,0,4220702.photogallery?index=1
