All long term relationships hit that point where the woman starts to wonder, “Where is this going?” If you know your man is “the one” and you want him to ask the big question but not sure if he’s even thinking about it, there are a few things you can do to move things along in the right direction.
Drop Hints If you want your man to propose, be sure you have had all of the important conversations about your future. It’s likely that he thinks things are just fine the way they are unless you have given him the inclination to think more long-term. If you don’t already, talk about living together, where you see yourself in five years, whether you want children and when. By having these conversations, you are dropping hints that you want to take it to the next level.
Even talk about marriage – sometimes that is a taboo topic, but usually it’s good to be open about what you expect and see in your future. Next, there are the hints about what kind of ring you’d want. Next time you are in mall or out shopping, just casually lead him into a jewelry store. You don’t have to have the official “ring shopping” outing to properly drop a hint about your desire to get married. You might also comment about your friends’ rings that you like – they may ask the guys where they got it, or seek out the friend for advice on your ring. Though, if dropping hints and discussing the topic doesn’t work, there is always timelines and ultimatums.
Timelines and Ultimatums Some women have been successful in getting their man to ask the big question by applying timelines and/or ultimatums. For instance, you may want to tell your man, “I want to be engaged within the year,” or “I’d like to get married by next summer.” Giving your man a timeline may actually work to your advantage, since he can now plan for the engagement and he knows what you want.
However, some guys need more than a timeline. You may need to consider an ultimatum. For example, you may say “Since we are living together, I feel like if we are not engaged within the year, I can’t do this anymore.” Or, you can basically say, ask the big question or that’s it. While it appears to be harsh, it happens to be a successful tactic to getting your man to ask the big question. The bottom line is that they are scared to lose you and will likely take the plunge.
So you are single and heading out for a night on the town in hopes of meeting someone new. Bars can be good places to meet people, but keep in mind these few tips.
Show Interest Usually, when guys hit the bars, they are with a group of buddies and likewise, the women are usually in small groups. Sometimes, this can be a tough scenario for picking up women. You don’t want to crash a group of women and seem rude especially if you can’t tell if the woman you have your eye on is interested. Remember, the likelihood of a woman approaching you in a bar is slim to none. They are waiting for the guy to make the first move. Yes, you might occasionally come across a girl who approaches you, but chances are slim. When she looks over, smile, act confident and appear like you are having a good time. Acting drunk or being overly drunk will not help you pick up women in bars. Next try to move your group closer to the group of women and continue having a good time with your guy friends. In a casual way, keep making confident glances at the woman you are trying to meet in the bar.
Strike up a Conversation Now that you have moved closer to the women you want to talk to, try to strike up a conversation. If there are sports on in the background, ask them who their team is, where they went to college – try to find common ground. If it’s a quieter place, maybe try to inadvertently stand or sit near them, and start with a simple “hi.” That will break the ice and hopefully get the conversation moving. Remember, proximity is important. Don’t stand on the other side of the bar expecting things to happen. Move closer to them – your chances of talking to them are better. Having a camera on you is a great ice breaker. Ask the woman to take a group picture of you and your buddies. Women think this is cute, and it’s a great ice breaker. Again, the key is getting closer to the women you like in order to start a conversation and get things moving.
Don’t be Afraid to Ask for their Number So you are talking to this great woman and you’d like to see her again. The phone number exchange in bars can be awkward. Women are likely not going to ask for your number. So you must ask if you feel like it’s going well. Women may be more likely to give out an email address. It’s less invasive and in today’s day and age, it’s common. So ask for a number or email address.
Don’t let the chance of meeting a great woman pass you by – be confident and not afraid to face rejection – not every woman in the bar is the right one for you, but it’s worth a try!
It is no secret that one of the hardest parts about dating is starting the conversation. You see someone you admire while out and you really want to talk to them, but how do you start the conversation? Sometimes the conversation flows easily from a simple hello or a quick introduction, but other times, it’s more difficult. There are a couple of things you can do to get the conversation rolling with someone new.
Approach First The first step in starting a conversation is to approach and get closer. You are not going to be able to start a conversation from across the bar. Proximity is the key to starting a conversation. Move yourself closer to the woman you’d like to start a conversation with, stand near them and say hi. If you see that person heading to the bar, go over and get close to them. Offer to buy their drink, make a recommendation or compliment them on what the woman is wearing or their jewelry. Don’t be shy! Be confident and engaging when starting a conversation. Laugh, smile and be interesting. Try not to talk too much about yourself and by all means, do not interrupt the woman while she is talking and be an active listener.
Find Common Ground A good way to start the conversation is to find some common ground with the person. Find out where the woman is from and perhaps you are from nearby or know someone in the area. This is a good starting point in the conversation. Moving from there, try to find more common ground and interests – ask the person where they went to college, their favorite places to travel or visit and what they do for fun. Finding common interests will not only be a good starting point for conversation but will also keep the conversation going. The key is finding something interesting to talk about with the woman. Often finding something you have in common is the best way to start a conversation.
Be Confident A key element to starting a conversation with a woman is to have the courage to approach them and be willing to put yourself out there. Confidence is one the most important traits that women are looking for in a man. If you show the confidence to just walk right up to the person and engage them in discussion, this will make the woman think you are strong and confident in yourself. Don’t be too sure of yourself to the borderline of cocky – there is a fine line between arrogance and confidence and women can tell. Most importantly, be yourself and relax and the conversation will flow.
Men often wonder how they can attract those hot women they always see out and about with other guys. They wonder, “How did that guy get with that girl?” “What’s his secret to attracting women?” The keys to attracting hot women are to achieve a balance of self confidence, charm, good manners and a kept appearance.
Self Confidence Hot women are attracted to men that are confident in themselves, strong and secure. You want to carry yourselves with a sense of confidence but without arrogance. Smile, have fun and let your personality be a standout in the bar. Confidence is everything when trying to appeal to a woman – if you go right up to a woman you have an eye on, they will be impressed by your secure nature. Even if you get rejected, you have the confidence to just shake it off and move on. Women do not want guys who need their hand held or ego stroked – be confident, it will pay off.
Charm Women love a charming man. Use humor and the right choice of words when talking to a hot woman. Smile a lot and be sweet in your mannerisms and words. Your own personal charm is a valuable tool in attracting hot women. Try not to take it too far – you don’t want to appear fake, but your charm is an important part of making your personality stand out.
Good Manners and Kept Appearance It is really important to be mindful of how you act and look when trying to attract hot women. If you come into the bar with holes in your shirt and wild, unkempt hair your chances of attracting a hot woman are slim. Don’t dress outside of your personality – you don’t want to look like you are trying too hard – but you want to appear together. Hot women want a guy that puts effort into their appearance.
Listen Being a good and interesting conversationalist will help you attract the women you want. All women like a man who can hold a conversation in a smart, charming and informed way. When talking to a hot woman, listen, make eye contact and be interested. Compliment her, but in a cool way. Don’t make the woman think you are weird by making big overtures, but compliment in an appropriate manner.
So, remember, if you maintain a good attitude, assured self confidence a groomed appearance, you will be able to attract hot women.
A long distance relationship can be tough but very fulfilling. If you really care about the person and want to make it work, there are a few helpful tips to keep in mind.
Communication Since you are in a long distance relationship, you don’t have the luxury of being close and seeing each other face-to-face. This makes communicating very important. You have to make yourself involved in each other’s day-to-day by talking often. And you don’t just have to talk by phone, many people in long distance relationships use email and instant messenger to stay connected. Depending on your relationship, some people don’t feel the need to talk every day, but you should be actively interested in the other person’s life and stay connected. By communicating often, you can stay up-to-date on your mate’s life and be able to stay close and connected. Even if you aren’t in the same town, that doesn’t mean you can just call to say hi or see how their day was.
Make Plans When you are in a long distance relationship, you should always be making plans to see each other. While some long distance relationships have the luxury of maybe just a few hours’ drive, others have to make more of an effort. It’s important to look at your calendars and make plans to see each other. By doing this, you have those times to look forward to and it makes the yearning to be together a little less painful knowing that you will see each other soon.
Since you don’t live in the same town, plan your time together so you are doing things that you both enjoy to maximize your time together. You also want to get the person involved in your life when they are around – be sure there is a sense of “reality” when you are together. You don’t always want it to be a vacation when you are together because one day, hopefully, you will live in the same city. When you are finally together in the same town, you will want to make the transition as easy as possible.
Share the Effort In a long distance relationship, you want to make sure that both parties are putting in equal efforts. Sometimes, one person feels like they are doing more to make it work – perhaps they are spending more money to travel to see the other person and not feeling like their mate is putting as much in the relationship. This can be applied to communication, too – the efforts to make it work must be shared and equal.
